This past month has been chaotic from a writing perspective. After an entire month abroad, I’m back. Honestly, I’m happy I went there because I desperately needed some “me time.” I had reached a point where pushing forward was very difficult.
As you may know, I’ve been living in the U.S. for a very long time now, but I’m originally from a small French island called Reunion Island. It’s a beautiful Island (somehow similar to Hawaii). So, I decided to go there to see my family, but also to take a much needed break. While it was nice to be with my friends and family, I used that time to find inspiration, peace, and the strength to push again.
I also visited the island as if for the first time, experiencing or looking at the sceneries with fresh eyes. After 6 years away, it was a fun experiment and I like challenging myself or try new things.
Here are a few things I’ll share from this trip.
What I particularly enjoyed:
Coffee
I rekindled with French coffee, tiny yet so strong they could wake up the dead. They are like tiny prepackaged walking bombs. You drink one, and I can assure you that you look like you just took a shot of vodka. In other words, you’re ready for the day.
I probably wouldn’t recommend that for the faint of heart.
Food
I’m a foodie, and I enjoy all sorts of food but the food there is to die for. Of course, you need to love rice, and I do.
The fruit tastes so much better. It’s like an explosion of flavor in your mouth. I had to go on a diet the last week. It was that bad (or that good)!!! Well, it did not feel like a diet. Whatever I ate, it was delicious.
Sceneries
Since 2010, the center of the Island (about 40%) is home to a Unesco World Heritage Site. I mean it gives you an idea of how beautiful the island is (Ok! I might be biased, but I assure you it’s beautiful). I found so much inspiration for my book there.
People
While I speak the creole there, I was a little concerned my kid would get even more confused, but that did not seem to bother him one bit. It was quite funny. He said hi or talked to them in English or French depending on the mood of the day. He got a few blank stares, but most of them were really kind with him.
Nothing’s perfect, so there were also a few things that weren’t ideal.
Sharks
Sharks are a real issue there, but it didn’t bother me too much because you have a few authorized places you can go swimming without any problems.
As far as I’m concerned, you’re also talking to the girl, who until she was 3, wouldn’t put her feet in the sand because it was sticky (Lol). I commend my mother for everything I put her through. I never really like the beach up until I was a teenager. It was kind of an annoying situation especially when you live on a tropical island.
Mosquitos
I think my skin developed some sort of natural repellent because they weren’t interested in me. It’s almost like I was old news (labeled already tasted, been there, done that), but I could see them lurking at night. They wanted fresh blood and were ready to do anything to get it. In other words, my kid was the perfect candidate – tender and sweet.
As a concerned mother, I ended up spending a lot of time with insect repellent in my hand chasing down my little boy. Towards the end of our stay, he thought I was playing with him and really made me run for it. My cardio was right there. It probably contributed to the fact I got here without any additional pounds.
Anyway…
As wonderful as my vacation was, reality is catching up with me now. Whether it’s about writing my book or posting on my blog, I haven’t been consistent. Needless to say, it’s never good to do so.
Now…
Would I do it again? Leaving an entire month without posting a thing? Probably not… Definitely not.
Am I getting something out of it? Absolutely! We usually learn best the hard way, right?
What exactly did I learn? Well, mainly three things.
1. Always be organized.
Learning to plan ahead of time is sometimes a challenge. I let myself lose track of priorities. As much as possible, you need to anticipate time off and schedule what’s needed, so you don’t lose any momentum.
2. Find a way to make it work!
We all have a set of excuses ready to go whenever we can’t find time. I wouldn’t go to a store the day before Christmas for obvious reasons – the principle is the same. Don’t wait last minute to do what’s needed. It’ll allow room for unforeseen events to happen without unpleasant consequences.
3. If necessary, relax but let everyone know.
We all know: Life happens. When it does, there’s nothing you can do. Let everyone know that you’ll take some time off because that is ok.
That’s my takeaway from this trip in a nutshell and, now that I’m back in California, I started writing full time. This is a nice change of pace, but I did not think I would have so much to do. My days are flying by so fast.
When you start writing a book, you quickly realize that writing is only a tip of the iceberg. Writing a book means you are not only a creative writer, but you’re also a business entrepreneur, a PR, a Salesperson, and even a Publisher in some instances.
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As if writing, itself, wasn’t hard enough, there are a few things to know when you start writing a book. For starter, you must learn all the intricacies of the industry. And, even if you’re ready to take on that challenge, you’ll have to keep pushing yourself to go above and beyond. In this situation, it is beneficial to rely on a strong support system, but unfortunately, not everyone will have this shoulder to lean on. This profession can get lonely at times.
Have you ever heard someone tell you that writing was a waste of time, that it won’t pay the bills? Did anyone ever say you were foolish and that your writing isn’t good enough, and that no one will ever be interested?
Sounds familiar? You’re not alone.
At the end of the day, people won’t always be supportive. Criticism is easy, especially for individuals who don’t get it.
I mean, how do you explain that you need to write like you need to drink water? How do you make them see that this is important to you? Really, how can you make people see that?
As far as I’m concerned, the answer is “You don’t.”
And, this is the hard part. Convincing them that you need to write is going to take time and energy. Don’t ruin your efforts and energy; use that time wisely.
Write instead.
One day, it’ll pay off. Keep doing what you do with passion and stick to it. There are many proponents to writing on a daily basis, and I’m one of them, even if in reality I can’t seem to apply this principle. Ultimately, you need to prepare yourself. Jeff Goins said in a training video that to succeed, we need to be in the right mindset. I had never thought of this before, but he is right.
So what does it take to be a writer? What are the attributes needed?
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I thought about it and wondered what being a writer teaches you and requires.
Bravery
To be a writer is to look at fear in the eyes and say I’ll do it. There are so many mental barriers to break. Fear of failing, not being good enough, being criticized, or not being heard. The list is long. I’m not even scratching the surface.
Money is also an issue. How will you pay the bills if it doesn’t work? Many stick with their job and progress is so slow that the motivation fades. Some may quit before time and realize that they were not prepared. The modern world seems to be in a hurry, and you need to keep the pace. So, being a writer is to be comfortable stepping out of your comfort zone.
Social Skills
Writers aren’t known for being outgoing individuals. I’m no exception. Of course, there are always a few exceptions. I’ve heard amazing speeches from a few authors at writing conferences, and I command them. I don’t enjoy public speaking or even the simple act of asking for anything. It isn’t in my DNA, but I’m working on it.
With that said, this community is full of awesome writers, authors, and bloggers. It’s worth the efforts. You make friends, learn faster, and get a fantastic support.
Humility
Learn to accept critiques (good or bad), be open to the possibility you’re doing something wrong, or there is simply a different way of doing it that may be better. Critiques aren’t fun, but it’s a necessary evil to progress.
Also, never be afraid to kill your darlings! The story is what matters. Let it be what it should, and don’t keep anything you like that is a disservice to the story.
Commitment
Writing is a long-term commitment. You need to feel strongly about what you write, or there is no chance you’ll get to the end. It takes months, even years, to write a book.
Imagine if J.K. Rowling did not like Harry Potter, she would be seriously screwed to have to hear all about it 10 years later… That’s just an example, but no matter if you’re selling your book successfully or not, it will take time to write it.
Curiosity
Some stories feel more real than if it had happened in real life, and that’s because of the writers’ ability to create that moment. Depending on what you write, reading specific materials or interviewing people are essential to be true to your story. All the research is solely conducted to bring truths in your writing.
A writer is always seeking that idea that will make the story even better.
Hard work and Discipline
Both goes without saying. Write every day! Write even when you don’t feel like it, and this is hard. I’m not afraid of challenges, and I love writing, but, with a family and a full-time job, I’m always exhausted. Finding motivation, when your body and brain beg for a nap, is rough.
With that said, discipline and hard work go together. There is no shortcut.
Perfectionism
You have to have some of it, but beware of too much as well. Good work will need countless revision, but you need to recognize that your book is ready for publishing. Do not rush and do not procrastinate. There is a delicate balance to reach that practice and reading will provide over time.
Writing a book is an incredible feeling. Read and write a lot. When you’re passionate about it, the thrill is addictive. Of course, there will be ups and downs, but your ability to overcome the struggle by displaying these attributes will make the experience worth every sweat.
Have you ever looked at a mountain so steep you thought it was too difficult to hike? Have you ever stopped in the middle of writing thinking you would never get published? Have you ever been so tired of a situation you wonder what the point is?
I have, many times.
When I look at my journey, I have my moments of doubts. A lot of them. I sometimes feel ridiculous or wonder why I even bother. I love writing beyond anything. It’s therapeutic at so many levels, but sharing with the world is making me step out of my comfort zone. Whether it’s about you or not, writing is always personal. You’re afraid of what people might think, and maybe you’re just making a fool of yourself.
There is always this moment when your stomach knots, and you doubt yourself enough to give up on your dreams. That very moment is what I’ve been working on.
So what will it take to make the difference between making an attempt or going the distance?
For me, it’s hard work, but also the ability to look at your fear in the eyes and make it walk away. But, that’s not something that is easy to do. Experience and knowledge help you build that confidence.
So, a few days ago, I decided to take on a new challenge to help get there. Another one, I should say! As if having a full-time job, a family, a book to write, and a blog wasn’t enough… 😉
I could have picked anything, but I wanted to do something I had never done before.
So here it is.
I LOVE eating, so the idea alone of not eating solid food for 3 days terrifies me. So, this is exactly what I decided to do. I won’t lie. I highly doubted I could be a happy camper during these 3 days, but I also knew I needed to do this, for me.
My husband had done something similar a few months back, and I decided to do it too. He and I signed up for the 3-day Blueprint cleanse.
What is a Blueprint cleanse?
The cleanse consists of drinking 6 juices in a specific order throughout the day. You purchase them online, and the company ships them to you overnight. There are a few rules to know. You need to prepare your body a few days before to avoid a brutal change by eating mainly veggies and fruits. During the 3-day cleanse, you can only drink water, herbal tea, or green tea. There are a few cheats offered, but let’s not go there. It’s a challenge, right? No gain, no pain.
Why am I really doing this?
There were a lot of reasons why I wanted to do this. This choice is VERY unlike me. I LOVE food, and I mean it. I’m the kind of person who thinks “Who the heck in his right mind would want to do this?” And, this is exactly why I did this. I wanted to push myself and see how much willpower I had.
Let’s not kid ourselves – That was never me!
I grew up always thinking I was weak, that I couldn’t do as much as the others. I spent more time indoor than outdoor, and I get tired easily. Also, I’ve never been consistent with any sports, so I’m trying to make a positive change in my life. My goal is to break the cycle, and I convinced myself I was stronger than I thought.
I used to think I would never be able to write a book. My perspective has changed, and I want to prove myself that we can do anything if we put our mind into it. That’s why I decided to challenge myself by doing something I didn’t think I could do.
Also, I’ve been sick almost all January, but that may be because I work from home. I’m less exposed to germs. So, when I encounter one, I can hear it say “Hey there, how is it going?” I know it’s for me.
Urghh!
Anyway, I decided it was time for me to get healthier and give a boost to my metabolism. I felt it in my bones it was the right thing to do.
So here I was contemplating my so-called food for the next 3 days with this voice shouting in my head: YOU CAN DO IT!!!
What did I learn?
#1 – Food is everywhere
Seriously, you have to stop eating to realize how surrounded we are by food. Everywhere I went, I could either see or smell food. Take your phone or your computer, and look at how many pictures of food your friends have posted. All the commercials are about food. This is ridiculous!
I have a kid I needed to feed, so not only I had to either get food or make dinner for him, but I also had to sit next to him while he was eating. Real question for you: Do you know how slow a three-year-old kid eats???? It’s like watching a snail and a turtle complete a lap and do a backflip on its way back, or better, talking to the sloth in Zootopia. Yes, that slow!
It was excruciating even though the juices were filling, so I wasn’t that hungry, but still.
#2 – I don’t like green juices, but who does?
My husband, I guess. For him, this cleanse was a piece of cake. I love smoothies, in general. They’re good for you, but I always prefer the juices made of fruit. I‘ve never really loved green juices, so try to drink 3 of them a day for 3 days, and you’re not that hungry anymore.
On day 3, I was in the kitchen with the bottle on the counter in front of me. I stared at that bottle for a while before making myself drink it. A lot went through my mind, but ultimately, my stomach roared, so I had no choice.
At some point, I even had a happy moment when I thought I had drunk the whole thing, but then, realized it was my husband’s bottle, and I still had a quarter to go… Have you heard of the emotional elevator? Yep – right there!
#3 – Our main barrier is ourselves
Well, we always have a choice, but that’s what I wanted to test – My willpower. So, I did it. I completed the three days without cheating, and I’m very proud of myself. I definitely challenged myself and questioned my sanity a few times, but I DID IT.
And, that was the purpose of this challenge – I wanted to get as many times as possible to this moment when I usually back out. We are our own barriers – Break them!
#4 – Your mind is playing you. Be the boss of you!
There are so many things we can do, but think we can’t because our background, our fears and/or society made us believe that we can’t. Well, we can, and it’s a work-in-progress.
The main thing this juice taught me is that I’ve had many moments where when I thought about food, I couldn’t spend 10 minutes without being hungry.
But, really I wasn’t, it was just the habit of eating. I read a book, watched a movie or had a pleasant conversation with a friend, and an hour goes by. I did not think of food or remember I was hungry.
What did that say about me or my mind?
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#5 – Push yourself – learn to be ok with being uncomfortable
[tweet_dis]You have a fear of heights, go climbing. You have a fear of being criticized, don’t mind the people. Do what you love even if it’s not easy.[/tweet_dis] I’m still pushing my barriers, and I hate the feeling of being uncomfortable. I’ve grown from that experience. Challenging myself is something I will continue to do, so I don’t fail myself by not pushing when necessary.
If I were not willing to do this, I would be a hypocrite to keep saying “push yourself.” I’m trying to embrace it until feeling out of my wheelhouse feels actually ok. I don’t know if I’ll succeed, but I will certainly try.
Writing a book is difficult because not only you have to write a great story, but you need to be committed. It takes a long time and a lot of efforts. There are so many barriers, so I keep pushing all the time.
I’m testing my limits and pushing myself to see how far I can go or how soon my brain will start acting up. Lots of great things happen when our mindset is wired to work for it and win. I want to be able to look at anything, without fear going in the way. I can do it; you can do it.
I’m confident that everyone will agree with me when I say more and more movies seem to be based on books. Have you ever wondered how many movies or TV Shows are indeed based on a book each year? What the percentage is? Well, if the question did not cross your mind, it certainly crossed mine, and as I suspected, the number is overwhelming.
How many of you started a year with a lot of great resolutions and miserably failed at most or all of them? I’m raising my hand right now and pretty sure quite a few of you did too.
We all have been down this path before, and we don’t seem to learn from our mistakes as we follow this pattern every year. Eventually, some of us stop, and some persist in hopes of success.
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